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Surviving the Transition
Things to expect:
- Communication -- This could increase or decrease. Parents should continue to make efforts to contact their student. Try to avoid asking your student if he/she is homesick. Resist lecturing
Do your best to gauge the emotional status of your student – is this a true emergency or a part of life?
- Discuss boundary issue prior to enrollment.
What will you discuss? Friends, relationships, academics, finances?
Allow Facebook, email, video calls, and text messaging to be a bridge to your student, not a leash.
How will coming home be different? Have the rules changed?
- Students still love mail and packages!
- Students are exploring their new environment
Try to “coach” them on the proper decisions
Pick your battles wisely
Encourage campus involvement
- Have patience
Part of the growing process is letting your son or daughter experience success and failure.
Provide lots of encouragement
Ask good questions to help the student make their own decision
Support, challenge, and accept them
Share your perspective
As a parent it is normal for you to experience mixed emotions knowing that your student will / has left home. Recognize your own transition and how it impacts you and your family. Dealing with your own challenges will help you be healthy and more successful in dealing with your student.
Know campus resources…
As a parent, students are accustomed to turning to you for questions and advice. Become familiar with the campus resources so that you can direct your student to those locations when a struggle arises.